If you sleep with a snorer and are desperately searching for the perfect gift…. for yourself… I may have the answer. It’s the Schnarchstopper (I do think the German translation of the device sounds so much more dramatic and packs more of a punch – pardon the pun) A simple device, the Schnarchstopper gives the […]
The Weight of Social Expectation
I wonder if anyone has ever tried to articulate or translate social expectations into a measurable format. I’m talking about an equivalent to grams, kilos, pounds, etc. We always talk about the ‘weight of expectation’ – so why not start measuring it? First you would need to name the units to be able discussing how […]
Out and Proud
Are you a closet separate sleeper? Do you hide your separate sleeping from someone or everyone? Do you join in conversations with your friends when they complain about how their wife or husband kept them awake last night because of snoring or blanket hogging and pretend to share the pain of sleepless nights? Why? I […]
Sleeping 101
I was watching The Project on Channel 10 tonight and yet again… there was a story about how us humans need our sleep. I always read, watch, or listen to stories about how we need sleep with a bit of a smile. The reason I smile, is mostly because I can’t help but feel a […]
Decisions… decisions….
How do you and your partner come to a decision when you don’t agree? It’s a tough task. Not every situation will result in a win-win and there will be many times that one of you does not get what you want. And that just plain sux! Especially when it’s you. John Gottman is a […]
It’s a no brainer
no-brain.er n. Informal Something so simple or easy as to require no thought. That’s what sleeping separately is for some people – an activity/decision/ event/behaviour that requires a minimal amount of thought when deciding if it’s for them. I have spoken with three couples recently who practice ‘sometimes separate sleeping’. Each couple spoke about […]
We need to talk.
How well do you communicate? (this is actually a trick question – don’t answer it) Making the move to sleep separately may require on of those conversations that start with a big, long breath and a pained expression. Even if both parties know it has to happen or even want it to happen, there is […]
The gift of bed.
Tonight, a story to share from a friend of mine. I love this friend dearly and asked her recently to capture for me, part of a recent chapter of her life, as it’s a chapter that has an aspect that’s dear to my heart. This friend’s husband brought their 25 year marriage to an end through his thoughtless and rather selfish […]
If only…..
As part of the ongoing research for my book, I trawl through many, many websites. Yesterday I was poking around on YouTube and came across a video from The Better Sleep Council that renders my whole thesis and reason for writing redundant. Oops. If only……!!! If only I could have the same the Pollyanna approach to my problems […]
