There have been a number of articles recently about findings by Patti Wood – a body language expert – around what your sleeping positions reveals about the state of your relationship. Patti tells us that:
Because your subconscious mind controls the way you sleep with your partner, sleep body language can be an amazingly accurate way to assess what’s going on in your relationship.
A curious assertion, given the unconscious state in which us humans find ourselves in each night, powerless to stop the uncontrollable bodily responses to that which is ‘sleep’.
So not only now must we concern ourselves with a frightening range of sleep disorders – sleep walking, sleep talking, apnea, restless legs, insomnia – we now must consider the hidden messages we are giving our partner but how we find ourselves lying near them. Or not near them as the case may be.
Here are ten positions that describe (I imagine) are some of the possible positions a couple may find themselves them while sharing the confines of a bed. (all credit for the illustrations belong to LittleThings and Maya Borenstein)
(Explanations of the positions can be found in the LittleThings article)
I must confess that positions 1-9 simply make me think about how completely unworkable these would be for me due to my husband’s snoring. But take away the snoring and I might consider 2, 5, and 6. For me, position 10 is just as bad as a snoring partner – seriously… how could you share a bed with someone who does that to you every night?
While I am a believer in body language, I can understand that the position adopted when a couple enter the bed at night MIGHT mask an unspoken message between the two. However, I do lose belief in the theory of unspoken messages being hidden in how a person positions their body when sleep arrives and takes over.
And what also disturbs me is how much weight people may place on the supposed messages transmitted when their partner is unconscious and succumbing to the physical vagaries of deep, or REM sleep? Lordy, lordy, lordy. If everyone didn’t already have enough to contend with when it comes to getting a good night’s sleep.
Final thought….. I wonder what message Patti Wood thinks I’m trying to send to my husband every night when I head to a separate room.
(I’ll help her. “I love you honey, but I need to sleep. See you in the morning, when I will still love you – but I’ll be well rested”.)