The self help industry (and good psychology) tells us how important self care is. As the awareness and clearer articulation about ‘self help’ has evolved, we have collectively become aware that we deserve to:
- take ‘me’ time
- be appreciated
- be loved
- be respected
- find our voice
- use our voice
- voice our opinions
- share our needs with those close to us……
…… and the list could go on. But I’m sure you get the point.
Googling ‘what do i deserve’ offers a plethora of musings on how one should determine ‘rights’ and ‘needs’, versus ‘wants’ and ‘desires’. Cultural practices, socio-economic conditions, and where and to whom you were born, also substantially impact on what you can expect to deserve in your life.
However, I would like to suggest that the right to a good night’s sleep is universal and something most of us can strive to achieve – and I don’t intend to be Pollyana or ignorant in my statement. I get that some people’s ability to sleep can be affected by a range of influences beyond their control – children, illness (theirs or other’s they care for), physical surrounds, socio-economic conditions, life events. And for those suffering sleep deprivation because of any of these – I feel for you – I’ve been there too. And it sucks!
In the last couple of years, the ‘right’ to a good night’s sleep has become a strong message in news and advice about personal health predominantly because of the significant health effects of sleep deprivation. I could provide a myriad of links to sites telling you WHY you need to sleep, and another endless list of HOW to get it – but I trust you have your favourite search engine (and know how to use it), or maybe you already follow my Facebook page. (if not…. please feel free to do so)
I have written often about my wholehearted support of the increasing awareness of the importance of sleep.
I’ve also written about how I, and millions of folk across the globe have no issue getting enough sleep each night in a bed of our own, separated from our partner.
And that is how we choose to prioritise sleep. (And our relationships remain strong and happy)
Is separate sleeping something YOU should be considering to prioritise your health? If it is, I guess my question to you is ‘do you sincerely believe you deserve a good night’s sleep?’
If you struggle to communicate this to, or with your partner – you probably need to be reading another blog or two. Sleeping separately to create the conditions in which you can get the sleep you need requires strong, honest communication.
But it’s SO doable.
Can you afford not to be getting a good night’s sleep?
Can you afford not to seek and achieve the sleeping conditions YOU need every night to look after your mental, emotional and physical health?
Is it time to start claiming what you deserve? The right to sleep.